My best friend is leaving next week, and I am happy for her.
She always confides her life goals to me - and when an opportunity arose I encouraged her to grasp it.
Hell, I may join her shortly. :)
Another friend started a trivial argument (blaming me) because she had been hurt by another, but I understand, and offered her what solace she would accept.
I lost contact with a third friend some time ago. He was a person who provided for others when they were sick. He counseled me when I needed him - and would call me out of the blue at the most serendipitous opportunity.
I still marvel at the magic of his perception.
I saw his profile on a site in early July and didn't take the opportunity to contact him. I told my friend who was closest to him about his profile and she said she would contact him. Months later she told me she had decided not to contact him (she didn't want to cause him any pain), but she hoped I had emailed him.
Well, I hadn't.
And its too late now.
When an opportunity arises to make contact with a friend from your past, please do so. I really don't know what else to say. Words are often so very inadequate.
And feelings too difficult to express.
23 comments:
Miranth, I am so sorry for your loss, and it is an important lesson, we never know when it may be too late.
Time and circumstance causes people to lose touch and sometimes life is all too brief but the fact that you think of him and remember him shows that you still care, and honouring him this way is lovely
I am so sorry for your loss.
Thank you both.
I can't speak of him to all of my friends who knew him, as they start sobbing.
And they are not normally very emotional, so they're uncomfortable.
But he was that kind of guy.
My friends who never knew him don't know what to say. And that's ok, too.
I feel the same way sometimes.
But, for me, it feels good to remember him. He touched a lot of lives in a positive way and everyone who knew him learned something.
His name was Noel, so the upcoming season will remind me of him, in a positive way - and that's what he would want.
Miranth, sweetie, I'm so sorry for your loss. We never know when someone is going to be taken from us, and I am guilty too of thinking, "Oh, I'll call them tomorrow", or "I'll send that letter next week". We never know if we have tomorrow or next week, so we should do things as if every day is ours or others last, but too often we forget.
I'm sorry to hear about your best friend moving. It's hard to be aways from someone who has become family to you. Lots of phone calls will be in your future, I'm sure!
Life is just too short to let petty arguments, or harsh words hurt us or hurt others. I know it sounds simple and corny, but when I write "Its all about the love", I truly mean that. If love is there, we can get through anything.
Take care of yourself, and I added Noel's name to my blog, under "Always Loved, Never Forgotten" which has Wendy's brother's name and my cousin.
Love you,
L.
Aw miranth, I'm so sorry about your loss. How are you holding up? I agree with Ergo's comment. I hope you're okay.
I've been losing touch with everyone since I started having problems with Blogger. I sent you an email, and for the time being, that and AIM are the only ways to contact me.
I'm sorry to hear your friend is moving, but maybe it is a opportunity in waiting. Good luck to her.
I miss you bunches *hugs*
L - Thank you so much. Your kind words mean a lot to me. Its true that 'its all about the love.' My friend with harsh words already apologized and offered to go with me to visit my friend who's moving, so I feel much better about those situations. I did tell her that I felt bad about her being hurt (by another person) - and that opened the opportunity for dialogue. I think when we start with kind words ourselves its easier to sort things out.
I am very, very glad I wrote about Noel. It helped me grieve and alleviated my feelings of guilt for not taking that opportunity to contact him. Also, I probably would have started balling at the store at the first 'Noel' sign I saw during the Christmas season. :/ But I do feel better about him and I know he's in a better place. :)
Thank you for the remembrance, as well, and I will send good wishes for you and your family. And I am sure your cousin is in a good place, too. *hugs* :)
BC - I miss you bunches! *giant hug* and thank you for your well wishes. I do feel better now after writing about him. Also one friend will go with me to visit my friend who's moving, once she's settled.
I am sorry to hear about blogger issues! Lots of people were having trouble with it last week - maybe your situation is related?
I hope it is resolved soon and I hope you are doing well?
I will keep in touch. Take care of yourself - and the cutie bunny! :)
Miranth:
I'm so sorry for your loss. A true friend is always a friend, no matter how much time has passed since you've last spoken with other.
You're correct. We always think there will be more time. We always say "I'll do it tomorrow" or "I'll tell so and so to say HI for me". Sometimes, so and so doesn't pass along that hello...
Sometimes, tomorrow doesn't come.
I'm sure your friend never forgot you. I'm sure, somehow, he knew you still thought of him too.
*huge hugs* and Much Love,
Wendy
PS: I've missed talking with you. Call me when you can!
Miranth I am glad you are alright
Thank you martha! I am glad too.
I was lucky that so many witnesses emerged so that I could go free - and they helped me find my way to safety.
Miranth!
Gosh! That must have been so frightening! I'm glad people there stepped in to help you. So often people look the other way.
And being a Leo, you can probably now expect a big dose of anger to hit you over what happened.
Hoping your hands and wellbeing heal fast, and well.
Take care!
xoxo
Thank you PP - I know you are a Leo too. :) I am angry, but I will avoid the situation (and persons) in future. The people really were kind, though they were wary of too much involvement. It could have rebounded to their detriment.
I went to get my car fixed and found the paperwork that I left there was bloody. :( But I am healed now. It took me a minute to figure out how that happened, so I must be over it, I figure :)
I hope you are doing well? :) I tried to check your blog to see what was going on, but its private. I hope you take care of yourself, and I appreciate all of your kindnesses. :)
PS - I will be posting at different times next month, when I am in-between settled places.
Miranth,
I finally got your email. Sorry about that. Sometimes you have to send it more than once. I've been having problems receiving email lately.
Just in case though, I'll probably make another email account :)
&hugs*
Sometimes, the best things you can say to someone, are the words that don't come from your voice, but from your actions.
Nice to see you around again Mira.
*hugs*
Miranth, I finally got over here to talk with you! I'm so sorry to be so long. I am THE world's worst correspondent, as many folks will tell you. ;)
Think I'm sort of out of the loop about what happened to your friend Noel. Still, that doesn't change the fact that I'm so sorry you lost him. It's so hard to get your mind around the fact sometimes; it still sort of surprises me to think of my Dad as gone, and it's been 20 years.
Rest easy knowing that Noel is in the very best place he could ever be. I often wonder what it's like, Heaven, that is. Is it the same for everyone, or does each person experience their own perception of it? Too deep a thought to consider for very long.
He's there, though, and he will always be in your heart. Your friends will help you get through it all.
Take care of yourself, and it's good to see you around. :)
P.S. You still have your Vulture Broom? Yeah, me too. Actually, I upgraded to a Vulture Baseball Bat, but the idea's the same. ;D
Miranth!
I just wanted to drop you a line and let you know I am thinking of you. I am sorry I haven't gotten back to you sooner, I've had phone issues! But PLEASE be careful! You did rather scare me loves! I hope you are doing alright over there and that you will be MOVING shortly! I know you don't get online much either, but I hope to have an email for you later tonight. Please, please, please be careful o.k!? I can't believe all the ugly that has come your way lately Miranth. But it's to make us stronger right? Like warriors! So please be careful (I cannot say that enough!) and hang in there. I know good things will come your way soon. You deserve only that. Will catch you soon loves!
-Love to ya <3l/d
Hey Miranth, how are you doing? I hope things are looking up for you. You are such a sweet person, and you have had so much happen in your life.
Take care of yourself, and let us know how you are, ok?
Love you,
L.
Lewis - Thank you so much for your kindness. You are such a sweetheart! :) I am doing much better, now. I got over the ugliness that came my way, I hope. I usually have bad luck when its the Scorpio time of the year, but not this bad! And I have the moon in Scorpio according to my birth chart. So I don't know what gives! I am taking better care and protecting myself against others, though I have such sympathy for everybody, it is hard! I hope you are well? I see you around mayo's more often, though my time is limited, I am happy to see you there! I enjoy the fact that we were brought together by these mysterious circumstances, but I have come to respect and appreciate the guidance offered by others here and there - and that is no small thing. Much love to you Lewis - and take care of yourself!
Amy - Truer words were never spoken. Noel's message was a gift to me - and I only realized it in the eleventh hour, but it is a piece of wisdom I greatly appreciate. Had I listened to it sooner, I may have avoided some of my recent circumstances!
J - I offered the brooms and baseball bat to DW, too. I figure you prob. have extra ;) I think they may have worked at his place! But I hope I don't speak too soon.
Noel's lesson as I said above to Amy came soon enough but I didn't realize its significance. He died of complications from injuries sustained in a beating. Sometimes it is wise to step back and consider how trustworthy one's friends are. I didn't heed the warning, but I trust in the lesson, if that makes any sense. He will always be in my heart and I am sure his place in heaven is the most fun place to be. :D He was always the one to lift the spirits of others and we had great fun, always. I feel better about him (and his place) now. (But I am sure heaven fits his perception of it - and unique it must be!) Take care and I understand about correspondence! *hugs*
L - I am okay! I feel better about things now and I have fit all of my recent lessons into one giant puzzle that makes the ultimate sense to me. I am grateful for the lessons as well.
You and J are such sweethearts as I said at DW's. You have kind words and a kind of sympathy that has been hard won in these places. I feel a camaraderie that words cannot express and yet a joy in knowing that struggles make us stronger.
Take care of yourself and J and much love all!
Hi miranth, I hope you're doing well.
*hugs*
Sorry for your loss, Miranth.
Thank you for what you said to me at Mayo's earlier this evening.
I'm so glad to hear you have a new laptop. That's so awesome. how are you doing? How is the moving coming along?
Take care.
Aw Miranth, I'm sorry to hear you have the stomach flu. I hope you get better soon *hugs*
Hello! Yep, I saw all your birthday wishes, everywhere you left them! :D Thank you, honey, that was really sweet. I'm off to have lunch with my mom, then OLIVE GARDEN tonight! Yum.
Happy New Year!
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